Being a mother and a teacher is not easy because every minute of your life, you are being watched and observed by little human beings around you. So, whatever we say or do, will influence and affect these kids. The scary part is when these kids emulate our behavior, words, actions and reactions. How do we behave in times of adversities or when we are faced with crisis? Are we patient or impetuous? Are we tolerant or uncomplaining? If we portray a positive reaction, then no problem. But if it’s something negative, then we have the responsibility to help that child unlearn whatever negative thing he/she has taken from us.
Having said that, to paint a good picture of ourselves in front of kids 16-20 hours per day is not an easy task. After all, we are only humans and we have feelings and we have thresholds whereby if the thresholds are reached, we will blow up. And that’s when we don’t want our kids to see our true unpainted picture. The best thing is to always take the middle road. When things happen, do not over-react (do not over-paint yourself) but do not under-react either. Over-reacting will create more problems. Under-reacting can be misinterpreted by kids that we do not care or we do not bother. And that’s also wrong.
Honesty is very important in whatever situations we are in. If we have over-reacted, explain why and apologize. If we have under-reacted, also explain why and apologize if necessary. Once things are clear, kids will better understand and in this way, they will learn what is right and what is wrong.