Sometimes we have complicated friendships whereby there is a love-hate feeling in you about the person. You hate him/her because of certain issues in his/her behavior. You love him/her because there is still something good in him/her.
So, what do you do with this kind of friendship? You can’t let it go nor can you keep it. Because the hatred will come to a climax where you can’t stand her/his behavior anymore and the love cannot prevail because of that undesirable behavior.
We can do so much to forget the flaws of our friends because we know that we are fallible too. But more often than not, the flaws become too unbearable and they sicken us to the bone. The next best thing that we could do is just to try to continue being nice and hope that person will change his/her ways.
We have to realize one thing is that just like we cannot tolerate certain behavior of a person, there will always be somebody else who cannot tolerate our certain behavior. Why? Because humans are not brought up the same way. We all come from different moulds, even if we are the same race, we don’t come from the same background. Even siblings don’t share the same likes and dislikes.
So what we can do is be moderate in our life. Be moderate in our love for another person – not to love him/her too much nor hate him/her too much. Because one day that person whom you love too much can become your biggest and fiercest rival and enemy and maybe that person whom you loathed so much will be the only person who can help you.
Whatever it is, keep your friendships. Don’t break any ties. People change. So do you. Maybe one day that intolerable behavior will dissipate. Or your tolerance level goes down. We can never know. Keep your friendships alive. Spread harmony and love all around. Because who knows, one day you might need somebody to help you face life’s complicated problems. And that somebody could be the very person whom you hate so much.
Does it make sense? If you have any thoughts on how to handle complicated friendships, please feel free to comment.